“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” — Katie Reed
What are you worth? How much time/money/effort is your happiness and health worth? I’d say it’s priceless, but the reality is that everything has a price tag, whether we admit it or not. And that cost has become prohibitive, but not for the reasons you might think.
It’s hard to admit that we might want to do things for ourselves when we feel others need us more: work needs our output; family needs our support; friends need our ears and our shoulders. We make time for all of life’s commitments and yet there’s so little left over for us. So, when someone suggests getting a massage to relax, we scoff and quip, “Like I have the time.” I think we do have the time and that it’s actually our perception of what we should be doing with our time that keeps us from using it in this way.
This is where I must confess that I’m TERRIBLE at self-care. I have kids, a husband, friends, and a business that need my attention. I have appointments to go to, clients to see, and daily responsibilities that must get done…but, if I were to let one of those things go and instead made time to go to a class or get some bodywork, would my world fall apart? Would everyone sneer at me and call me selfish for not putting them first? Or would I feel recharged and ready to do everything on my list and more? It could feel weird to put everything but myself on hold, but the earth won’t spin off its axis if I do. I’m not important enough to affect the law of physics, but I am important to those around me…and to myself.
So, I’m gonna go with: No, self-care isn’t selfish. Perhaps stepping out of it all to get a massage or take that class you love is the best thing we can do for others. Perhaps the things we inherently label as selfish are actually the things that contribute to a happier and healthier us. And when we’re at our happiest and healthiest we help make the people we care about happier and healthier, too.
I’m curious to know what you guys think about the importance of self-care and what you do to bring more cheer to your world this time of year. Is it sitting quietly with a book or a cup of coffee? Is it being with friends or family? Is it traveling? Share in the comments because I really do want to hear from you.
And if you’re ready to take a self-care step today, be sure to book in with me for a Thai Yoga session now!